Concept of Permanent Loss

Parenthood is not easy! Every day you age as a parent is a humbling experience. Not only does the respect for your parents increase by leaps and bounds, but also your experience in explaining complex concepts in simple words.

A few weeks back, I woke up in the middle of the night after a disturbing dream. The subject of the dream was a permanent loss involving my daughter. In the ensuing disorientation, I managed to write a short email to my wife asking if all is well.

When I woke up next day, my wife had replied. There was nothing to worry. When I called home that evening, my daughter was excited.

She: What happened yesterday?

Me: *confused as I had forgotten about the dream by now* I came back from office, ate dinner and slept.

She: *uninterested* That’s all?

Me: *unsure where this is leading to* Yes…

She: *excited* Did you write to mom? Did you dream about me?

Me: Yes.

She: Tell me about it.

I was taken aback for a moment. I had no idea how to explain the dream. Is she old enough to hear what I have to say? After an uncomfortable pause, I composed myself.

Me: You went away to a far away place. I was searching you everywhere. I couldn’t find you and was very sad.

She: *laughing*

Me: *unsure what is happening*

She: *laughing* I’m a small girl. How can I go away alone?

Didn’t I tell you it is a humbling experience?

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Tags: Parenthood,Loss,Dream


  1. @Harish - :) Glad you like it!

  2. Kids indeed have a lot to teach us. And're right. It's only when you become a parent do you feel that you're parents are really worthy to be worshipped!

  3. Have u heard people saying that you see dreams about things you thought in your mind. I do not know whether it is right or not. But your daughter is alright. so stop worrying.

  4. Such a sweet answer; she gave to you.Wonderful!

  5. @RGB - Yes, I agree! :)

    @IndiaBlooming - Thanks for dropping by! Thanks for your assuring words too. :)

    @Pratibha - Glad you like it. :)

  6. yeah... it happens at times. you see a terrible dream and wake up with a relief that it was just a silly dream! However I know.. it is not all that a good experience!

  7. Nice.. Happens to me so often...especially when I am travelling. But children have this wonderful logic that stumps everyone! My daughter once called her father ( when she was about 3 years old_) and introduced herself to the switchboard operator who answered the phone by saying"I am Shrishti here can I talk to my daddy?"

  8. Yeah happens to me all the time especially when I am travelling

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  10. @MeeraSRajan - Don't they always find a way to surprise us?


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