Wednesday, July 4, 2012

A girl makes a difference

A girl makes a difference; in some cases a big difference. Tell me about it. My life changed after my marriage for good. Well, not all stories may be related to marriage, but I am sure many of us would agree about the close association with the fairer sex and change. That is exactly what my friend was talking about yesterday.

My friend starts a new assignment at a new place. He waits for almost a week to find out his responsibilities. You may call it inefficient but think about the rapidly changing business priorities. In any case, we pretty much know what we are good at and we can also guess what will be handed over to us based on what we have projected before we took up the assignment. The most difficult part is to figure out an organization's processes.

There are manuals both offline and online to understand the organization's processes. If you have moved into a new position, you are initially hit by the sudden inactivity and also the nagging insecurity. It is not a peaceful time to immerse yourself into documents. Most people do not have the necessary patience. This is exactly where you colleagues comes into picture. They can help you get on to your feet quickly by giving an overview of important aspects.

So my friend goes to his colleagues. Everybody is busy. He is redirected to the online and offline resources. My friend is frustrated because of the perpetually engaged colleagues. A week later, another person joins his team. It is a girl. The perpetually busy guys are all going the extra mile to help her in teaching her the processes.

That is the summary of his grievances. Of course, this is not only unprofessional but also discriminating. But is this kind of behavior true for male-only groups? What happens when a man moves into a female-only group? Are men more prone to such behavior?

Tags: Musings,Girl,Processes



12 comments:

  1. haha..women r lucky...hey there is truth in the story yar..

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    1. Of course, there is truth in the story. My friend narrated the incident to me. :)

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  2. hey if a man moves to a female only group even he would get that special attention :)

    anyways what you've described is discrimination and i wouldn't like to be in his place ...

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    1. If you say so! I mean about the man moving into the female only group.

      Discrimination or not, it is being unprofessional for sure.

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  3. yes, it is definitely unprofessional of his colleagues to render help to the woman while they pretended to be busy when your friend asked for help. But it happens everywhere I guess.

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    1. :) Next time it happens, think of my friend's plight. Hope it helps to reduce the friction.

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  4. I'm sure the girl will always get that attention.
    One guy in the middle of an all-girls group? Hmm...sometimes he gets all the attention, and sometimes he just might be ignored completely. Believe me :)

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    1. When the girl-between-guys is a predictable scenario, the guy-between-girls is dicey. :) I understand your comment.

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  5. Why do I get the feeling that the situation might have been a bit exaggerated by your friend? Maybe b'coz I've never been in an environment as described. It's not just unprofessional, it stinks of discrimination and immaturity I would say, like how college kids would behave! It's time those guys grew up!!

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    1. Any narration will have a bit of exaggeration. I think the anxiety of being inappropriate also has a role to play here. The guys think it is okay to say no to another. The guys really do not know if it is okay to say no to a girl.

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