Hunger to be loved

BBC tackles the various issues with adoption in South Korea though one of their recent articles. The article reaffirms a universal fact about cultures. Culture never ceases to surprise us. In addition to this, the articles also teach us a valuable lesson through Stephen Morrison. At an early age, Stephen was adopted by American parents. Now he goes back to Korea to meet his pals from the orphanage days and also to encourage adoption in the Korean society. Before adopting, he had a hunger to be loved. Being adopted not only satiated the hunger but also transformed Jonathan academically.

All of us have potential. But are we putting this to use? In Stephen's example, he was able to transform or realize his potential when his hunger was taken care of. If you analyze this further, don't we all have the same hunger? No man is an island. Forgive me for not being gender neutral. No man can survive without external feedback. There are many people who can change their rise from their lowest points in life when you give them destructive feedback. In my parlance, The "High Noon" phenomenon. A lonely sheriff fights a battle for a town despite constant discouragement and disappointment. But the majority of us can rise above and beyond our true capabilities only with constructive feedback.

The hunger, to be loved, is latent in all of us. It is easier to take care of this hunger both at home and also at work when we realize it is hidden and not immediately visible. At home, it is as simple as a kiss a hug or a mantra of "I love you". But I strongly advise you not to practice these simple techniques at work. If you still go ahead disregarding my advice, then you will get into trouble at work first and at home later. At work, there is even a simpler way to get this working. You could thank one of the colleagues for what they have done well. Now what do you thank for? Finding what to thank for is the tricky part. Why don't you have a simple goal of thanking someone before you go home. If the above goal is not specific enough, pick one person for a day and make sure you are going to thank that person for something. Once you have set your mind on thanking that person for something, you will find an act that is worthy of your good words.

If you follow my advice, there will be many happy people around you. Of course, this outcome is expected as we have dealt with their hunger. But what about your hunger? When you surround yourself with happy people, don't you think the chances for someone to reciprocate your act is higher?

Tags: Musings, Hunger, Work, Love