Poking nose into other people's business

Why do we poke our nose into other people's business? Despite being taught and always reminded on minding our own business, we can't resist the urge to meddle in another person's affairs. If we go down the memory lane, we might have instances where this meddling has resulted in results both good and bad. I can tell you an instance where a young friend dipped her nose into a friend's lunch box. I am talking figuratively. 

It is customary for great teams to have lunch together. Having lunch together means it 's hard to resist looking at what other person is eating. So my young friend noticed a lack of pattern in what her friend was bringing. Her friend was always bringing curd rice for lunch. Now you may be curd rice fanatic who can extol the virtues of this particular dish. You may also go into nuances of making this dish. Your speech is falling on deaf ears. For me, it is just rice mixed with curd.

The lack of pattern in her friend's lunchbox greatly disturbed my young friend. After a few days, she couldn't resist herself. So she asked her friend the reason for the curd rice. There may have been elements of of persuasion before which her friend confessed. Her friend's wife packs the lunch. As his wife is busy with household chores, the friend doesn't feel it right to register his dislike of the packed lunch.

At this point, I became tensed. There was a reason for this. I know my young friend. She is an idealist. So I second guessed how she would have reacted and I wasn't wrong. She was angry at her friend. According to her, he has to tell her the truth. He works hard, and he needs proper nutrition. So he should request for a bit of variety in lunch. She expressed the same to him. My heart sank when the narrative reached this point. I was afraid to ask what happened. My mind always conjures up adverse consequences. So I could only visualize domestic discord and discontentment no matter how I played it out in my head.

Sometimes, it is better to discuss things over. The couple might have discussed it.  As per my young friend, the curd rice was gone from the lunch box after she had a talk with her friend. I strongly believe open discussions are good. While you may take my blog as inspiration, please use your instincts and knowledge to assess a situation. This way, you have a fruitful discussion. If you do not evaluate the situation carefully, you may end up like one of my other friends. He openly discussed the new attire bought by his wife. According to him, it didn't suit her. Well, that is a story which I don't want to complete.

Photo Courtesy: Kirstie Warner